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May 23, 2008

Size Differences

Differences_blog_2It's hard not to notice the physical differences between Gwen and Maddy but that wasn't always the case. 

Two years ago, they were very close in height and weight and every day strangers would smile and ask me if they were twins.  Since I hated to lie, I'd say "no" and then they'd ask about the age difference (36 days) and that would lead to even more questions that random strangers aren't really entitled to answers to.  But I always felt compelled to be courteous and answer them.  To avoid all of this, I stopped dressing the girls alike and avoided eye contact with anyone who looked too curious.

In the last year or so, Gwen has really gotten much larger than Maddy.  Not just in weight but in all other ways:  She's three inches taller, 14 pounds heavier and 4 shoe sizes larger.  The differences are very obvious now and nobody ever thinks they're twins.  Instead, they think Gwen is a year or two older than Maddy.

Gwen is the size of the average US five year old but she's still only three.  Maddy is normal height for her age but weighs about as much as a 2 year old.  This is just the way God made them and we love them for who they are and there doesn't seem to be much we can do to influence a significant change to any of it. 

When Michael was three, he was also very big for his age and I considered getting him a custom made t-shirt that said "I'm only three" so people wouldn't look at him and expect more mature behavior.  Now I wish I'd gotten that shirt so I could pass it down to Gwen!

It's strange having virtual twins who are so similar emotionally and developmentally but so incredibly different physically.  But they're our babies and we love 'em and wouldn't have it any other way!  :)   

May 22, 2008

In memory of Maria Sue Chapman

Heart_love_bug_blogAny time a child dies, it hits me straight in the heart so when one from our own small adoption community dies, it strikes so close to home that it shakes me to my core.  It's almost too much to imagine that it's Steven and Mary Beth Chapman's little Maria Sue.  I mean, if anyone has enough good karma or positive credit with God to keep something like this from happening, it's them.   

Steven Curtis Chapman knew how important it was to Dance with Cinderella while you can.  Through his beautiful and insightful song, he helped all of us appreciate how fast "the clock will strike midnight" and our children will grow up and be gone.  I'm so grateful to him because I often get caught up in the hectic daily stuff and forget to cherish all the little moments with my kids.  Obviously, he and Mary Beth would trade nearly anything in the world for another hectic moment with Maria.  I can hardly find words to express how sorry I am that the clock struck midnight so early in this family. 

I'm always trying to make some sense of tragedies so I'm searching hard for some reason for this one.  I know the real reasons that bad things happen aren't often revealed to us but that doesn't stop me from searching or believing the reasons exist somewhere.   This morning, I'm loving my children a little bit more and hugging them a little bit harder.  When I pick them up from school at noon, I'll be a little more grateful that I'm blessed to be their Mommy.  Tonight, we'll have dinner with Michael and we'll finish the day by reading "Shaoey and Dot".   I love that book but I always cry when we get to the part about the babies "saddest cry of all" so I have to hand the book to Andrew for him to finish.    Now I'm not sure I'll ever be able to get through any part of this book at all.  But in honor of Shaoey's little sister, Maria, I'll try harder to be strong. 

More about Maria here: http://chapmanchannel.typepad.com/inmemoryofmaria/

May 17, 2008

Happy Birthday, Daddy!


Gwen in Carmel

Today was Andrew's 40th birthday and his big present was a big new camera.  We'll go out and pick it up tomorrow.  We're still undecided about whether it will be a Nikon or a Canon.

We went to Big Sur and Carmel today and took a bunch of photos.  It was such a beautiful day and it seemed perfect for hiking and photography (two of Daddy's favorite things).  The photo above is one of my favorites for the day.  I also have a few from this evening (taken with the portrait lens) but I'll have to wait to post those tomorrow.  After that, I'll be all new pics with our all new camera! 

May 16, 2008

Paisley and Polkadots


Unless I have something incredibly personal to write about, I'm going to post on this blog (instead of the private blog).  I miss my Blogger friends and I'm reasonably certain that my kids aren't shy and probably won't care that I share some of their life here. 

For the last two days, we've had record breaking heat in San Jose.  How can a temperature nearly equivalent to my body temperature feel so damned hot?  It seems like it should be just about perfect but it's unbearable and we're all stuck inside the house with our noses pressed up against the sliding glass door waiting for the mercury to drop below 90 so we can go out and play.

Yesterday, we dug last summer's swimsuits out of seasonal storage so we could play in the water in the backyard.  The instant they saw them, girls wanted to go to the pool and turned up the charm full blast.  They finally had to settle for playing with the garden hose instead (an equally exciting option that doesn't require that Mommy shave her legs).

The suits fit so much better this year because we're not wearing a swim diaper.  Maybe we'll try swim lessons so they can do something in their bathing suit other than just look adorable.

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